12 Step Program for Corporate Detox

12 Step Program for Corporate Detox

I’ve been to a number of events lately where I’m surrounded by people who are taking their income into their own hands. They’ve left the corporate world in exchange for making it on their own doing what they’ve always wanted to do.

I’m inspired to meet these like-minded people who also believe that job security is an oxymoron and that it’s up to them to decide how to make money.

It doesn’t matter how you started your new life, if you chose to leave your job, or if you were laid off, downsized, or outright fired.

What’s important is that while living the entrepreneurial life is exhilarating, it’s easy to slip back into the old ways of the gray cubicle existence.

With this in mind, I’ve listed a 12 step program to follow for complete corporate detoxification.

1. Dust Off Your Values

Now that you’re free from a job, what are your highest values? What are your priorities? What are the things you’ve been putting off because your time was already spoken for? When you were at your job, what was it you always thought about doing?

As you go forward in your new life, you’ll want to base it on what you hold most dear. For me, fun, freedom, and mobility rank among my highest values. So I’ve planned my life to make sure I maintain those values.

2. Create a Vision and a Plan

Now that you have your values lined up, create a vision of your dream life. How are you going to make money? Where are you going to live? Who’s with you? This vision becomes your motivation.

Now take your vision and create an action plan. How can you get to where you want to go? Who can help you? Having your dream and backing it up with massive action is the best way to kick start your new life.

3. Daily Schedule

This is one of the most important steps. When you had a job, most likely your schedule was more or less determined for you. You showed up to do the work handed down to you. Now it’s your turn to fill your day with meaningful activities.

This is a tuff step. You need to get rid of random web surfing & unfocused social media. Get rid of checking emails by the minute. Get rid of any work that isn’t 100% productive.

For me, I’ve recently discovered it’s easiest to work in what I call “power sessions”. I work really hard and really focused for 90 minutes at a time. Then I get up, move around, and maybe do a few push-ups. Map out your day (preferably the night before) into chunks of productive tasks that will get you closer to your goals.

4. Be Grateful

You started off your program by rediscovering your values. Now that you’re in the daily grind, you should start every day by taking time for gratitude. Be grateful you’re in business for yourself. Be grateful you get to see more of your family. Be grateful for the ability to generate income on your own. There’s a million things to be grateful for.

Being grateful puts you in a perfect mindset to push hard and achieve the things you want. Plus it helps keep things in perspective.

5. Sell, Sell, Sell

It doesn’t matter what business you’re in. If you’re making money on your own, you’re a salesperson. Your biggest job as an entrepreneur is to get paid. After being in the corporate world for years, there’s no better feeling you’ll have than getting paid for your efforts and it all goes to you!

Selling and bringing in money is the most important of the steps so far. Once you’re making money, then you can always readjust your priorities. An awesome vision with no money doesn’t really make the family too happy. Food on the table and a nice roof overhead is the best security and you do that by selling.

6. Hire Your Weaknesses

Procrastination is bad and nothing causes procrastination more than having to do something you don’t love or aren’t good at. The solution? Get someone else to do it!

Personally, I really don’t like bookkeeping and managing numbers. But guess what? My wife Heidi does! So we make a perfect team. Outsource everything you aren’t in love with doing.

If you are lucky enough to find a way of life you love, you have to find the courage to live it.

John Irving

7. Rediscover Meaningful Communication

Guess what? When you’re on your own, you don’t have to worry about office politics anymore! You get to choose exactly who you work with. You can choose to work with only your ideal clients or customers.

You can open up and really connect with people once again. You can deepen your relationships with your clients or customers by being who you really are.

8. Accountability Partner

It’s liberating to not have a boss anymore. High five! But now you need to keep yourself accountable. This is another vital habit to implement, especially if you’ve been answering to a boss for a long time.

You might think you don’t have to answer to anyone now and that’s true but you still need someone to help you stay on course for the things you’ve decided to do. I recommend a business coach or strategic partner. This person, or group, will only help you move forward and stay focused.

9. Surround Yourself with Like-Minded People

Similar to having an accountability partner is to make sure you’re spending time with other entrepreneurs and small business owners. It’s invigorating to connect with people who also share your values and are anxious to share their expertise with you.

There are lots of places to network both online and offline. Places like Meetup.com and Biznik.com even offer a combination of the two. Consider joining various in person networking events. Nothing beats the face to face time with other people.

10. Continual Education

You’re in business for yourself so it’s up to you to become the expert. It doesn’t matter what industry you’re in, there’s always room for continual learning. By becoming the expert in your field, you’re ensuring your own security and it opens doors to new ventures.

You can also take that expertise and put it online and hold live workshops. This will increase visibility for your business via education marketing. You can also start to charge more for your services or products as you achieve some notoriety.

11. Relax

Now that you’re in business for yourself, remember to take breaks and enjoy the fruits of your labor. I’ve been guilty of getting so involved in what I was doing that I let the whole day slip away without even leaving the computer. While this is great that your ideal work can be so consuming, remember to take breaks and enjoy being free to do so.

Working in 90 minute power sessions can help you do this. After each session, go outside and get a breath of fresh air. Go to the park with the kids. Do something physical or some quiet mediation and refocusing. This is a perfect time to remember to be grateful for your perfect life.

12. Keep the Faith

When things get a little challenging, it’s easy to start to lose faith. Maybe you haven’t made a sale or you just lost a key client. It’s in exactly these times that you need to increase your faith and know that something better is on the way.

Go back to the other steps. Strategize with your accountability partner. Outsource a heavy project. Be grateful. Get out and close more business. Keep your values close and act on them. Nothing is more important that continuing on the course you’ve determined.

Never retreat.

Never look back.

Push forward.

Embrace your freedom and remember it frequently.

So there are the 12 steps to discover your new life and leave the corporate life behind. The steps are in chronological order but they’re also meant to be revisited at anytime. In fact, they are all synergistic.

I wish you the best of luck in your new journey. As a liberated entrepreneur myself, I can tell you, there’s no better way to living life!

What else do you think is vital for an entrepreneur to remember?

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WHY RISK IS A GOOD THING

Why Risk is a Good Thing

In my family, we love to play a game called “Pass the Pig”.

The point of the game is to roll two little plastic pigs and have them land in certain positions that equal certain points.

When your points add up to 100, you win. The catch is that with every little toss of the pigs, you could “pig out” and you risk losing all your points.

You can stop and any time with the points you have and wait until your next turn to continue to add points.

I won’t mention names, but some people in my family think I’m crazy because on my turn, I never pass the pigs. I keep rolling until I pig out or I get 100 points.

Why do I do it? One, it’s just a game and I really have nothing to lose. Two, and this is the real reason, I love the thrill of the risk!

PASS THE PIGS FAMILY ROCKETSHIP
What is risk anyway?

Wikipedia defines risk as “the potential that a chosen action or activity (including the choice of inaction) will lead to a loss (an undesirable outcome). The notion implies that a choice having an influence on the outcome exists (or existed). Potential losses themselves may also be called risks. Almost any human endeavor carries some risk, but some are much more risky than others.”

Wow! Can we be any more gloomy? Risk is commonly thought of as negative. People only think of everything that could possibly go wrong. Can we try to be a little more “glass if half full” and see that risk is actually a two-sided coin?

If risk means the potential loss or undesirable outcome doesn’t it also mean the potential gain or desired outcome? The key word is potential. It could go either way. It’s a 50/50 shot right?

Expect the positive outcome

Recently I learned the power of expecting the positive outcome. I kept procrastinating sending over a proposal to a potential client. I waited for a lot of reasons but the main reason is that I thought he might think it was too much. Now I know that shows a lot about what I was thinking but the point is that I was expecting a negative outcome.

Why? Dumb right?

With the help of my awesome personal coach (something that everyone should have – more on that in another post), I chose to expect the positive outcome. I took the risk and waited for the good to happen. Guess what? It did! Happily ever after. But it wouldn’t have happened had I never taken the so-called “risk”.

More often than not, if you expect the positive outcome of a situation, it will happen that way. In fact, I don’t know why I even ever thought the opposite before. It doesn’t make any sense! Why expect the negative? What’s the point?!

I once heard that “worry is just the misuse of imagination”. If we flipped that, it would mean that positive expectation or faith is the proper use of imagination. This is part of the optimist’s creed. Always expect the best and it will usually happen.

Let’s rewrite the definition of risk shall we?

Let’s say that risk is the potential for a chosen action or activity to yield great results. It is especially important to expect the positive outcome to achieve the desired result.

Progress always involves risks. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.

Frederick Wilcox

Will things always turn out right just because we hoped they would? Of course not. But we would never know unless we took the jump. Risk is really just a stepping stone to success.

In fact, here’s another new definition:

Risk is believing in yourself enough to drive you to take action toward a certain goal.

Risk is showing the world that you’re not afraid to do what you want to do.

So, is risk a good thing?

Heck yeah! Take the risk. If it doesn’t turn out the right way, the worst thing that will happen is that you learned what didn’t work. Unless it means you actually dying, nothing in this life is really too risky to not attempt.

Keep rolling those pigs man. Life is short. Risk it!

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Why Getting Laid-off Can Be the Best Thing to Ever Happen to You

Why Getting Laid-off Can Be the Best Thing to Ever Happen to You

“We’re going to have to let you go”.

The words bounced around in my head for a moment as I looked around the taupe colored office with horrible florescent lighting.

After the meaningless conversation that followed (I mean, they already had their minds made up right?), I left the office and arrived home midday to greet my wife and girls. I told Heidi what happened and we sat down and had a very involved conversation.

Have you ever been laid off from a job? These days it doesn’t seem too bizarre. In fact, it used to be a very serious thing and now it’s almost commonplace.

Photo courtesy of Social is Better

What happens when you lose your job? It’s a shock to the system right? It’s a big blow to your normal routine. It certainly makes your life a lot more interesting, that’s for sure.

It’s now my intention to convince you that getting laid off from a job could be the best thing to ever happen to you. To sum it up – it creates new opportunity for you.

First, it gets you out of the routine

When you have a job, you have a daily schedule you must follow right? Getting released from your job means all of the sudden you don’t have to get up and hurry off to join the rat race. Your time is yours.

Maybe there was something you’d rather be doing but your job and your happy little routine didn’t quite give you time to do it. Well, now you have that time. This leads to the next point.

Second, it gives you the chance to grow

So maybe you weren’t in your dream job. Most people aren’t. Why not go after it now? What about that awesome business idea you had? Why not use this time to start it? What about that Round-the-World plane ticket you’ve always wanted to buy? Maybe now is the time to do it.

Reinvent yourself. Anything is possible!

Third, it gives you a new lease on life

You have to have the right attitude. I believe everything happens for a reason. I can say with 100% confidence that you losing your job will only create a bigger opportunity for your life…should you so choose.

Don’t worry yourself with bills or rent or whatever. You’ll figure out a way to pay them. Just get creative. Maybe you don’t need the $200 cable bill. Maybe you don’t need the super deluxe gym membership that you don’t use anyway.

Use this time right now to start doing what it is you really want to do.

So, hopefully I’ve at least helped you start to see that losing a job is a good thing. Now let me give you some practical steps to take if/when your day of freedom comes.

Step 1: Drive Home and tell the Family

I know this one may seem obvious. Your loved ones are going to wonder what’s up when you show up in the middle of the day. But your family and loved ones are your first and best support group. If you’re married (or in a serious relationship) use this time to talk it over. If you have older kids that can understand the situation, this is the perfect time to have a family council. If you’re single and maybe family isn’t around, use your friends or roommates.

Step 2: Tell everyone you know you lost your employment

It doesn’t do you any good to keep your new-found unemployment a secret. Tell everyone. Like I already mentioned, these days losing your job really isn’t too uncommon and certainly nothing to be ashamed of. Call key people and email everyone else. This will get the ball rolling.

Step 3: Spend time in prayer

Losing a job is a humbling experience. Spend time in prayer or deep meditation thinking about what got you to where you are and where you’d like to go now. I know from personal experience that you can find answers if you just ask and listen. This introspection is very important and it leads to the next step.

Step 4: Set goals based on your priorities and values

Now that you’re free from your old job, set some goals. What do you really want to do with your life? What is your ideal income source? What is the one thing you’ve always wanted to do? Chances are what you really want to do will be in line with your priorities and personal values.

For example, maybe you love to travel. Deep values for you might include learning and freedom and mobility. Priorities for you include seeing new places and learning new cultures.

Be sure to set goals that are the most meaningful to you. Ideally, it’s a goal that gives you chills just to think about it.

Step 5: Start taking action

This is the most important part of the whole process. The most successful people in life are the ones who take action. And I mean meaningful action that’s in line with your the goals you’ve established. If you want to write a book, don’t just organize your desk. Start writing the book! It must be focused action.

It seems taking action cures almost everything – lack of money, lack of relationships, lack of (fill in the blank). You’ve been given an opportunity to do something even bigger and more meaningful than you were before. Now is time to really kick start your new life. Do whatever it takes to start today.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will”.     Vince Lombardi

I’ll wrap this up by getting back to my own story of getting laid off. When I got home in the middle of the day, Heidi had a slight freak out. It lasted for a grand total of 30 seconds before her face changed and she burst out, “This is it! All this means is that a new, better opportunity is coming our way!”

And she was right. We have now carefully crafted our dream life and I’m very pleased to say we are living it. One of our primary goals is to help others also live their dream lives.

It’s possible. It’s real. Now it’s your turn.

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The Vital Mission of Chris Guillebeau

The Vital Mission of Chris Guillebeau

“So, what do you guys do?”

“Well…” Heidi begins to explain, “a little while ago Sean lost his job…”

“Congratulations!” Chris says smiling.

“Exactly!” Heidi and I both reply at the same time. And that’s how our first meeting with Chris Guillebeau started.

Last night we had the fortune of meeting blogger and author Chris Guillebeau at the University of Washington bookstore in Seattle. It was an inspiring atmosphere being surrounded by so much knowledge and next the UW campus.

The room had a lot of great energy and was full of 50+ like-minded bloggers and non-conformists.

I was impressed that before he spoke, Chris took the time to meet as many people in the room as he could, including coming up to Heidi and me.

During his presentation he spoke about his motivations for writing the book. Then he proceeded to give a 15 minute spiel about some of the important elements found within the book. There were a few points he made that were especially potent for me. Here they are in no particular order:

Impact of Your Life

Chris GuillebeauChris spoke the importance of building a legacy. What will be the impact of your life? This goes hand in hand with what Chris considers the two most important questions in life.

1 – What do you really want to get out of life?

2 – What can you offer the world that no one else can?

People living what I term the “average life” can dismiss these two questions as merely philosophical.

But I know, from personal experience, if you really take the time to think about them and answer them, they can have profound effects.

What do you want the impact of your life to be? Phew! It’s a doozy of a question!

Selfish Generosity

After his brief presentation, Chris took questions from the audience. One of the questions led to talking about the charitable work he and others do in other countries. Chris mentioned how working with others is really an act of “selfish generosity” as he termed it. In other words, both parties benefit. A win-win. It’s a wonderful concept.

Step Back from the Bridge

In his book, Chris opens with the concept that as kids we’re told, “If everyone jumped off the bridge, would you?” It’s often used as a way to get us to think for ourselves. However, as we get older, that question somehow gets lost and, even worse, we are expected to act as everyone else does. So the question turns into, “Everyone else is jumping off the bridge, why aren’t you?”

If I may elaborate ever so slightly…

The questions (even if not spoken but merely assumed) usually sound like this: Everyone else is going to college, why aren’t you? Everyone else clocks in at a job, what makes you any different? Nobody travels until they are retired, what makes you so special? Don’t you want security and stability in your life?

Chris GuillebeauThere are a few other things that I was especially impressed with. When we first showed up, Heidi and I just took a seat in the front.

Chris was already talking to a small group and we didn’t want to impose. A short while later he walked up to us to meet us. Very cool.

I was next impressed with his level of sincerity. He asked questions and then listened. He also responded very genuinely to our questions.

Finally, I was impressed with his ability to remember names. I suck at remembering names especially if I’m meeting more than 5 people at a time in a busy environment.

After the presentation, Heidi and I had Chris sign our copy of The Art of Non-Conformity (which I highly recommend to everyone) and as I sat down, he knew mine and Heidi’s name and even remembered we had two little girls. Wow!

A Final Note

One of Chris’s underlying messages is that you don’t have to live life the way others expect you to. You should do what makes the most sense to you. If that just happens to include living an extraordinary life and helping others along the way, even better.

I agree with pretty much everything the guy has to say. You could say it’s his mission to help free people from living average lives. He knows his message isn’t for everyone.

He’s well aware of the resistance of years of conditioning beliefs and society’s unspoken rules (however faulty and limiting they might be).

For the people who do hear his message, and more importantly, are doing something about it, it serves as a clear and optimistic voice saying, “Go for it!”

Thank you Chris for your message.

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How to Free Yourself from the Grasp of "Stuff"

How to Free Yourself from the Grasp of “Stuff”

A lot has been written about this already but I figured I’d take a stab at it basing it off of my own recent experiences. Not too long ago, my wife and I decided to sell most of everything we own and take our little family out to vagabond for a while. It was a move designed to kick start our “real life” and quit the nonsense of the numbing 9 – 5 treadmill most are stuck in.

So, why do you have stuff?

Let’s get to the basics shall we? Let’s really boil it down. You need food. You need shelter. You need clothing. Pretty simple right? Beyond that, everything is just extra.

Really!

So there are some things we need in order to get the food, shelter, & clothing. In my case, I work online so I say I just have to have my laptop! I also need a flat surface to type on (preferably a nice desk) and a power source and an internet connection. Right?

My justification comes in when I say it’s how I provide food, shelter, and clothing for my family. OK. The computer can stay. Stuff that helps you generate income generally doesn’t require too much anyway.

But what about the sweet 42” Sony Bravia LCD TV we had? In this case, it was something that provided entertainment. If it doesn’t actively help you generate food, shelter, and clothing then it’s entertainment. Here is where the line gets fuzzy and here is where you have to focus.

Doll collections, fancy china plates, baseball cards from 5th grade, an absurd amount of candles, whatever –  all of this is really just a form of entertainment.

When stuff starts to own you

I’m not saying it’s wrong to spend money on things or collect stuff (I love scuba gear and books myself). The catch is when the stuff starts to own you. As it’s often said, when you take possession of an object, it begins to take possession of you. It’s your attitude towards the object that causes the possession.

Think of the guy who spends more time waxing his sports car than with his family. Or the woman who has enough shoes in her closet to supply a small country. Stereotypical examples I know, but you get the point.

So how do you know when your stuff is possessing you? Here’s a way to find out. Go to one of your precious objects and look at it. Now ask yourself if you could you sell it? Could you slap it on Craigslist and get rid of it today? Or even better, give it away to someone who would really love it or could really use it? If you can’t, perhaps you’ve become a slave to an object. Not a fun place to be.

Where’s the line between having stuff and materialism?

The other day I read a great post by Adam Baker and it really struck a nerve. I watched a video in awe where people were literally trampling each other to get to into stores to buy stuff. It was bananas!

It made me think about materialism. What comes to mind when you think materialism? Perhaps you think of the countless people shopping on Rodeo Drive in Beverly Hills? Maybe you think about diamond necklaces and fancy sports cars? Maybe you think about people breaking arms to get the latest Xbox?

Here’s another question – have you ever viewed materialism as holding onto that which you can’t let go? You may not think that you’re materialistic in the traditional sense but the bottom line is you’re possessed by an object and can’t let it go. This is a form of materialism.

Is all stuff bad?

No! I’m not saying to shed everything entirely forevermore. Stuff is good. A grand piano for a talented child is an amazing gift. A computer for a developing writer is perfect. A luxury car or yacht to fulfill a dream – awesome!

What I AM saying is that the most important thing is to recognize is your relationship to that stuff! It has to actively contribute to your life. It has to add value to your life. It has to serve you and not the other way around.

In my case, I’m at a point in life where I’m much more interested in experiencing things than having them. I know, I’m part of a very small minority, but what a liberated group of people we are!

Making space – physically and mentally

Tim Ferriss, in his book, The 4-Hour Work Week, talks about how getting rid of stuff from his apartment not only freed up the physical space, but mental space. As he puts it, “It was as if I had 20 mental applications running simultaneously before, and now I had just one or two. My thinking was clearer and I was much, much happier.”

Letting go of the things is hard at first. I know. It sucked watching my surfboards drive away in the back of someone else’s truck. It was sad to see our beautiful leather reclining sofas packed up. That was made even worse when our 2 year old kept saying, “Daddy, that man is taking our couches. Make him stop.”

But each time something left us, we somehow felt a bit lighter and bit closer to our dream of being mobile and free. As Tim said, we were much, much happier.

Even if you’re not trying to be mobile like me, there comes a time when we all just have too much stuff. It’s inevitable. The universe likes to fill space and the same goes for empty walls and closets. So the time comes when you need to shed some weight.

How to decide what stays and what goes?

One of the easiest ways to decide what goes and what can stay is to decide the sentimental and functional value of each object. I understand sentimental but you have to draw a line somewhere. Get the help of a good friend or neighbor to help you draw the line. That part is important.

To determine the functional value of each object is easier. Just ask yourself, “Do I use this (fill in the object)?” Why not? How long has it been since the last time you used it? Think about these things with everything you see.

You should do this often. Spring cleaning might not be enough. I think perhaps a monthly introspection and then action of selling, recycling, or giving stuff away.

You can also pay attention to what you buy and how often. The next time you’re at the store or mall, just ask yourself, “What value will this add to my life?” If you can really justify it, cool, buy it! If not, walk out of the store with nothing in your hands and your head held high! Take pride knowing you’re smarter than the shiny, glowing marketing laid before you.

The freedom of a minimalist lifestyle

There are a lot of people who are much more experienced than I am to really address the issue of minimalism. I’m just getting started on living in this way. I can tell you that it’s incredibly liberating. It’s hard to describe but life somehow seems a bit more focused, clean, and free.

The bigger picture is this: we’re all simply travelers on this adventure called life. We will die and we will leave our stuff behind. Stuff is good. It adds to life. It’s just important to have the proper perspective. If you can’t bear the thought of living without it, it’s time do some serious reflection.

What do you think? Are you a lover of stuff or is it just you and a knapsack?

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A Secret Ingredient Of The Ultra-Successful

A Secret Ingredient Of The Ultra-Successful

Do you know who Nolan Bushnell is? He’s basically the father of modern video gaming. He’s the guy that founded Atari. Something he once said could be considered the personal mantra of anyone who’s ever succeeded at anything. He said:

Everyone who’s ever taken a shower has an idea. It’s the person who gets out of the shower, dries off and does something about it who makes a difference.

You know the feeling. You’re in the shower and it comes to you – the greatest idea since sliced bread. This is it. This is your big break! You think about it and it just gets better and better in your head.

Then you get out of the shower and somewhere between getting dressed and eating breakfast, the idea fades off into the recesses of your mind to be lost forever. And inevitably you return to your normal life.

It’s Always About Action!

So what is the secret to making a difference? The answer lies in the doing. People who are successful are big time doers. They’re achievers. They’re driven by getting something done. It may not be perfect, but hey, at least it’s done. And it’s out there changing the world. And in many cases, it’s making money.

The secret to success lies in doing, doing, doing. I once heard a trainer at a conference hold up his daily planner and declare that the secret to his millions made was contained in his daily schedule. He formed a plan for everyday and then worked his plan until it was done. He took action.

An Observation About Action

I heard that trainer at that particular conference almost 10 years ago. Like many others in the audience I was inspired and motivated. I left pumped up and determined to make a difference.

Then something happened. I somehow let life take over again and I quickly returned to my routine. I didn’t get out there and make the difference I was so pumped up to.

So that brings up another quote I once heard. It’s this:

Education without application is just entertainment

You know what I’m talking about right? You listen to a great CD. You hear a great speaker. You watch a great DVD. You love the learning process. You scribble notes as furiously as you can.

Then what happens? It’s that exact moment that separates the top 3% of the population of doers and achievers from everybody else.

How Can You Be An Achiever?

The best way to determine what you could do to start living your dream life is to ask yourself a few questions. I know it sounds a bit cliché but it works. Out loud, as if you were interviewing yourself, ask yourself some probing questions like:

  • What is keeping me from taking action today?
  • What is my biggest obstacle?
  • How can I overcome this obstacle?
  • Who else do I know that could help me?
  • What are some things I can do today to get moving?

Ask yourself questions like these and you’ll already be taking your first steps towards action and making a difference.

The next step would be to get out there and start doing! Make a list. Use your daily planner. Write it on your mirror. Whatever! Just do it!

What are some ways that help you take action? What’s your biggest secret to taking action?

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The Solution to World Peace

The Solution to World Peace

This is the fourth of a four part speech series that I gave in my local Toastmasters speech club. Some of it has been modified to fit an online audience as opposed to a live audience. Read Part Three Here

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I want to announce that I know the secret to world peace.

I really do. But first, let me ask you a question. What issues do you see happening today keep us, as a society, from having world peace? Think about it for a minute.

The Path to World Peace Is Found In The Most Simple Of Concepts

These concepts, when applied however, can end war. They can give everyone enough food to eat. They can provide everyone with adequate shelter and the means to develop themselves –their skills & talents.

I’m not talking about the latest political agenda. I’m not even talking about the many good organizations out there trying to make a difference.

But let’s take a step back for a minute. Maybe we should evaluate if world peace is even possible? Do you think it is?

There will always be differences of opinion. There will always be people who make poor decisions. There will always be opposition. So can world peace ever truly exist?

I humbly submit that it can.

But in order to get there we need to understand how that will happen. And what each of our roles would be in that.

So in the next few minutes, let’s explore 3 things:

  1. The concepts we need to know
  2. How those concepts relate to society
  3. How to apply these concepts to achieve the desired result

So, first, let’s explore what the concepts are.

Would you believe that I’ve already shared them with you? I’ll let you in on something. The past 3 lessons I’ve shared have served as the foundation for what I’m sharing today. I’ll explain.

It’s my understanding there are 4 basic concepts or, areas in our life, where if we just focused in on, we could arrive at relative peace in this world.

The 1st concept is that of self. Throughout this blog thus far, I’ve chosen to share about themes all relating to personal development. I talked about asking & receiving, overcoming fear, digging deep to overcome obstacles, focusing on the right things in life, & so forth.

Guess who sang this:

“If you wanna make the world a better place take a look at yourself, and then make a change”.

Sound familiar? Michael Jackson. Was Michael the best example at what he himself sang? Well, I’m not going to make that judgment here. But the fact remains he’s right. In order to affect out there, we need to first change what’s in here.

Before we can have world peace, we need to be at peace with ourselves. We need to seek out & incorporate virtues such as tolerance, accountability, gratitude, optimism, faith, and of course, love.

The 2nd concept is that of having a solid relationship with our significant other.

I’ve shared the key ingredients that I’ve learned go into a great marriage. As we become strong ourselves, we can then partner, with someone who we think is pretty cool, and create a solid relationship. In my limited experience, nothing in life is as sweet as the union that exists in a couple who focuses on communication, gratitude, & love.

The 3rd concept is that of parenting & family.

I’ve shared the components that I’ve learned go into great parenting. I’ve also shared of the importance of family in our lives & how important family really is.

I’ve stressed that family is a big deal. And it affects every single one of us.

The 4th concept is community.

When I say community I mean our jobs, our neighborhoods, associations, clubs. Anywhere where we step out of our home and become part of a larger family. Ultimately, community means being part of the human family.

Self, relationship, family, & community. Let’s explore how they relate to society.

Helen Keller once said, “Happiness cannot come from without. It must come from within.”

So if we’re to achieve peace in our world, we must start with ourselves, then our families, then our communities. It’s simple logic really. Individuals combine into families. Families make up communities. Communities into cities then states & provinces, countries, world.

Thus we see that the family is really the basic building block of society. To make changes in society we must first make changes in ourselves & in our families. There’s no other way. The world out there is made up of what’s in here.

It’s up to us! It starts right here with you and me.

So, how can we take these concepts and put them into action? Well, it starts with us. We must be the change. Mahatma Gandhi said, “You must be the change you wish to see in the world.”

We can’t wait for the other guy!

But guess what? We can each do it in our own little way in the circles we already move in. Our work. Our clubs. Our congregations.

I’m not saying we need to start protests or marches. Almost the opposite in fact. We can do it where we already are. Where we already work, live, & play.

Big changes are brought about by small, seemingly insignificant but consistent good acts. Oprah Winfrey once said, “You’re defined by what you stand for”.

I’ll take it a step further. I say you’re defined by what you’re willing to do. What action you’ll take.

If you Click Here, I’ve listed some suggestions of what you can do to help. I left space for you to make it your own. Please take some time to go over this & commit yourself to it. It’s not hard. It just means being mindful & doing something extra. I once heard that extraordinary people are just ordinary people who do something extra every day……..

I’m just a young guy. I’m 32 years old. But I know this is just how it is. So now I ask you, will you join me in making this change? For yourself, your relationships, your family, & community?

Now I’ve let you in on my secret to solving world peace. But is it really a secret?

Of course not! It’s just a matter of putting this information in action. Can you see how you & I can make that much needed difference? Can you see how we can achieve such a lofty goal by doing the most simple things?

Notice I didn’t say it’s easy. But it is simple. And achievable. And it can start with a small but dynamic group like ours.

You must now make a decision.

You must decide if you’re willing to stand with me & take this message to the world. Will you stand & commit to world peace simply by being a better person, husband, wife, mother, father, brother, sister, neighbor? Will you stand & act?

Can we achieve world peace? Of course we can!

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If you missed any of the previous posts you can read them here: Part I, Part II, Part III

Please be sure to comment and let me know what other things we should think about in solving world peace.

WHY JOB SECURITY IS AN OXYMORON

Why Job Security Is An Oxymoron

Have you ever heard the term At Will Employment? Most likely you have.

In fact, most people who’ve ever signed on with a new job have read those words in their contract. Basically it means that an employer has the right to dismiss you with or without cause whenever they like.

This “At Will Employment” isn’t just limited to hourly jobs either. It goes all the way up the food chain, CEO’s & Senior VP’s included. So my question is, with such a clause built into every persons working situation, does that really seem like true job security?

It doesn’t seem like it to me!

You Are In Charge Of Your Own Security

There is so much talk these days about the concept of Job Security. Government officials are busy trying to assure the public that they will help create happy, safe, secure jobs for years to come.

But there’s a problem with this. By relying on the anyone else to provide for you, you’re not providing for yourself. You’re getting a fish but you’re never learning how to fish.

If you’re reading this article, then chances are you have a desire within you to become something bigger. You’re not content with hand-outs. You also know that only you can provide the kind of security you’re looking for.

Why Job Security Can Never Be A Reality

The concept of having a nice, safe, secure job will always be just a dream. Governments, unions, & associations, try as they might, will never be able to provide a job for people that will last indefinitely.

That may have been true 40 years ago. But the fact is that the world is now changing too fast. Changes in technology and growth in up and coming countries like India and China are changing the global economic scene.

Those jobs where you worked steady hours with steady pay are now being written into the history books.

The simple fact is this: Job security can never be a reality because it assumes that security is something that can be created on the outside; that it’s something external.

Real security is something that comes from the inside. Real security comes from your own efforts. Real security comes from your own resourcefulness. Real security comes from your own industry and taking control of your life. It’s about taking responsibility for yourself.

At Will Income

Have you ever heard the phrase “At Will Income”? Well it’s basically the opposite of At Will Employment. It means that instead of waiting for your weekly paycheck from your boss, you determine how much money you’ll make and when and then what you get to do with it.

Entrepreneurs live by this code. Entrepreneurs don’t wait for someone to give them a handout. They go and get it for themselves.

The Choice Is Yours

Whether you want to work on the mercy of an employer or create your own income is up to you. You need money to make it – you need food on the table and a roof over your head. That’s obvious. But how you make that money is up to you.

The choice is yours.

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