On January 22, 2004 I was the second person to arrive at a church parking lot. I was there to meet up with a group of other singles all going out on an activity.
The first person in the parking lot was a brunette still sitting in her car.
Being a social kind of guy, I got out of my car and approached the brunette. She saw me coming and opened her door and started to get out.
I clearly remember seeing two long black leather boots attached to lean muscular legs slowly moving out. My memory then skips to amazingly dark & deep brown eyes with a bright white smile underneath.
“I’m Heidi”, she said.
Inside I practically laughed. Heidi. Awesome.
I’d only known two Heidi’s before in my life and they were both super cool.
Cool name. Great style. Dark hair. Amazing eyes. Beautiful smile.
So far so good.
“My name’s Sean”, I said. (I would later find out that Sean was a good name for her too being that her younger brother’s name is Sean).
From there we started talking and, for a lack of a better way to express it, really liking each other.
Fast forward a couple of weeks.
She was the one. I knew pretty soon after that first night.
Long story short, we were married only 7 short months later.
How Not to Suck at Marriage
Two years ago I wrote How Not to Suck at Marriage. I wrote it in commemoration of our wedding anniversary.
As I was looking it over this morning, I realized it’s not half bad. I stand by everything I wrote way back then.
I talk about believing in and standing by each other. I talk about making time for each other. I talk about having fun together and more.
Just like back then, I don’t pretend to be an expert in marriage. How can I? I’ve only been married for 9 years now! That’s nothing in the big scheme of things.
But here’s what gives me the confidence to get preachy on anything regarding marriage – I found my Happily Ever After.
How I Found My Happily Ever After
“Show me a man who is smiling from ear-to-ear and living a beautiful life, and I’ll show you a man who is grateful for what he has and utterly in love with his wife.”
I love my wife. She rocks. There’s no one better in the world for me. I learn this more every day.
After all, I would not be living on an island in the Caribbean doing this whole lifestyle design thing if it weren’t for her. Seriously.
But it gets deeper.
Before getting married, I knew that I was making the biggest decision of my life. I wanted to know she was “the one”.
I didn’t want to commit my life, my soul, my everything, to something that would fizzle out.
So I prayed. Yeah, I’m a believer. And you know what? I got an answer! Three distinct and surprising ways in fact.
Armed with that knowledge, it eliminated any future doubt about my marriage. Really.
I mean, if I felt the Big Guy upstairs gave his stamp of approval on my marriage, how could I ever doubt that? Why would there ever be room for anything less than a strong, loving marriage?
Any challenges, any problems, any tragedies would only be tools to help us grow closer, not tear us apart.
Our attitude is come what may. And in the meanwhile, we’re going to have a blast living our carefully crafted life.
Marriage means Something Bigger
Enough about me. This is about you. This is about your marriage. This is about your family. This is about society even!
Strong societies start at home.
I’m not a sociologist. I’m not a marriage & family therapist.
I’m just a guy that enjoys an awesome marriage and that provides the foundation for everything I do. Anything I’m able to contribute to the larger world comes from that.
This is a big part of the Family Rocketship. Lifestyle design, world travel, online business, all that – it all starts at home first!
“When there is love in a marriage, there is harmony in the home; when there is harmony in the home, there is contentment in the community; when there is contentment in the community, there is prosperity in the nation; when there is prosperity in the nation, there is peace in the world.”
OK, enough preaching.
If you haven’t found your Happily Ever After yet, may it happen soon and profoundly!
If you’ve already found your Happily Ever After, treasure it. It’s the most important thing in the world.