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If Your Life Were a Book, Would You Read It?

When I started my weekly vlog series, I used this quote:

“If your life were a book, would you read it?”

If your life was a book, would you read it

Think about it!

THE BOOK OF YOU

Imagine walking into a Barnes and Noble bookstore and there on a display table right smack dab in the center was a heaping pile of brand-new hardcover books. On the cover is a picture of you!

The title says your name and it’s written by you. As you open it and leaf through the pages, you start reading bits here and there. Do the titles intrigue you? Do the paragraphs jump out at you? Any key sentences that grab your attention?

What would it say?

Would it be a page-turner? Would it be interesting? Funny? Epic?

Or would it bore you to death? Imagine reading something this:

Today, traffic was horrible. There was an accident on the 5 so I got to work late. Of course, I saw a note from John asking me to come into his office the second I logged onto my computer. I tried to explain it to him but he didn’t care. He said it was my “last offence” before being put on “indefinite job in jeopardy”.

As if he seemed to know what I was going to say next, he said, “Don’t make me have to write this up as ‘insubordination’. Your numbers are good and that’s the only thing keeping you on here…”

When I got home, it wasn’t much better. I found a notice from the apartment complex saying that our water bill was three times the normal amount. My roommate doesn’t seem to notice that his 30 minute showers are forcing me to max out my credit card just to keep up with bills.

I don’t know how much longer I can take this…

I think you get the point.

Oh, by the way, that is actually somewhat autobiographical. I’ve actually heard the words, “indefinite job in jeopardy” and “insubordination” and “last offence” at jobs I had in the past.

Holy crap, just thinking about that versus thinking about where I am right now (staring out a window in my AirBnB flat in Northern Spain) brings me a swell of crazy emotions. I’m so grateful for where I’m at now!

And I wish I had a time machine to go back and show the past me some pics of my current life. I’d say, “Hold on, man! It gets better!”

And the feelings that I’m having right now are the exact reason why I’m writing this for you. If you’re reading this, mi amigo, I know you know there’s something better out there for you!

THE PLAY ABOUT YOU

But maybe the book example doesn’t do it for you. What if your life was a movie? Or a play?

In fact, one of my favorite quotes is:

PLAY SHIRLEY MACCLAINE

Is your life a wonderful play? Are you having fun?

Anthony Kiedis of the Red Hot Chili Peppers sings at the end of “Can’t Stop”:

“This life is more than just a read through”

This is it dude! There’s no practice or dress rehearsal! You are on stage right now and everyone is watching!

Are people watching you sit in your car in traffic? Are they watching you clock-in at a job and then sit in a cubicle? Are they watching you fidget in your chair while a boss takes out her own personal problems on you? Are they watching you on your lunchbreak view YouTube videos of people traveling around the world?

Honestly think about it!

If you were to look out into your audience, are they bored? Are they yawning? Are they getting up and leaving?

Keep in mind, this is just an analogy to get your mind going. Obviously, you shouldn’t be living to entertain others. But, you should be living a life that you yourself are proud of. Something that if you showed your 12 year old self, he or she would be dazzled.

And here’s the thing, you can! In fact, there are about ZERO excuses why you can’t.

YOUR DOPE LIFE

If you’re reading this blog post, you’ve got to understand that I myself am not just preaching this stuff. I try to live it.

For me, I’ve identified that having a dope life with my wife and my kids is pretty much the most important thing I can do. Followed closely by my family, I want to help as many other people also discover their own “dope life” and actually have the courage to do it.

That’s why I write these blog posts. That’s why I do a weekly vlog. That’s why I share a bunch of resources and tools to help you with all of the step-by-step information that you need to actually make it happen.

If you’ve come across the Family Rocketship, I hope this stuff seeps into your veins. If you’re living an average life, I hope you start getting discontent. I want you to get a little agitated – enough to start making changes in your life. I hope you realize that you don’t (and shouldn’t) live an ordinary life.

I hope you understand that you have a bigger purpose than to simply process reports. There are places to see. Things to do. People to help and to learn from. You were meant for bigger things my friend.

It all starts with you. It starts with your desire to want more. It starts with your choice.

WHAT WILL YOU CHOOSE?

The world is waiting for you to decide. Will you give us something amazing? Or will we file away your story with the millions and millions of poor souls who played too small with life?

It is all. Up. To. You.

Please, for your life’s sake, choose something good!

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WHY I TALK PEOPLE OUT OF HAVING JOBS

Why I Talk People Out of Having Jobs

I’m going to tell you straight up right now, if you’re comfortable with your job, then this post isn’t for you.

In other words, if you don’t mind having a boss and doing the same thing every single day, then don’t read this.

Save yourself some time.

On the other hand, if you’re someone who’s looking for freedom and happiness, then read on amigo!

WHY NOT TO HAVE A JOB

DONT LIVE THE SAME LIFE FOR 75 YEARS AND CALL IT A LIFEYou already know all of the downsides to having a job but in case you don’t, here’s a refresher:

  • You have a boss – someone that tells you where to be, when to be there, what you do for the big part of your day, and so on
  • You have zero control of your income – sure, you might get to negotiate your salary when you first start but after that, you cross your fingers that your annual performance review scores you a big 2% raise!
  • It’s the most limited way to make money and the most heavily taxed – as an employee you have very little say in how you pay your taxes
  • You know that your job is not truly “secure” – it all depends on how happy your boss is with you
  • Your life is dictated to you – when to take breaks, how long those breaks are, what your hair can look like, even what you wear!
  • You see the same people every single day – and it gets bad when you don’t like those people!
  • You have relatively little time with your family – you get to see them on weekends and get to take a week’s vacation in the summer and maybe a day here or there during the holidays!

I’ll just stop there because that last one really irks me. Why would anyone settle for letting a boss tell them when they can hang out with their family?

Back in my job days, I even quit a job on Christmas Eve just to be able to spend it with my family!

A new friend of mine from London told me once in an email:

I cannot imagine spending (wasting?) the majority of my life-energy for the next 20 – 30 years on work and work related activities. It’s madness. Life is too short for that! It’s not even an option for me anymore. I don’t understand why people settle for this.

Exactly.

WHETHER YOU LIKE IT OR NOT, JOBS ARE DISAPPEARING

Taylor PearsonBesides the fact that jobs generally suck, there’s another reason why I talk people out of having them.

Whether you want to act on it or not, we all know that jobs are no longer what they used to be. In fact, the term job security has already become an oxymoron.

This applies to the lowliest hourly employee to the highest, most prestigious professional. It doesn’t matter. If you have a boss, your job is always at-risk.

Combine this with the fact that many jobs are literally being taken over by apps or robots. I’m not kidding.

Think fast food restaurants will want to pay people more money to take orders? Not when a self-help kiosk could do it!

Think people will take a smelly taxi at 4x the price when they can pull up an app and get a nice car and driver almost instantly?

This stuff isn’t in the future, it’s already here!

WHY I’M A PROPONENT FOR ENTREPRENEURISM

If you spend any time on this website, you’ll see that I’m not too shy in my dislike for jobs.

Why? I’ve just never met anyone who absolutely, positively loves every aspect about their job. It’s almost impossible.

Ask me if I love what I do…

“Sean, do you love what you do?”

Yep! Absolutely, positively, 100%. I have zero downsides to how I spend my time.

When I urge people to look at doing something on their own, it’s because I’ve personally seen it work in my life. I’ve seen it in my friend’s lives. I want you to have your own business so you can do whatever you want to do.

I’ll just dive a bit deeper here. There are 4 big, juicy fat reasons to do your own thing.

THE FOUR FAT REASONS TO HAVE YOUR OWN BUSINESS

#1 – CONTROL

Running your own business is actually about control. When you work at a job, you have very little control. There is someone else telling you what to do all the time.

When you run your own business, you control everything. You control how much you’ll work – what days and how many hours. You control how much you charge for your services or products.

Most of all, you control your own income. Want to give yourself a raise? Make some more sales. It’s as easy as that!

#2 – CHOICE

When you have your own business, you have all the choices you can handle!

Want to go swimming with your wife (or husband) in the middle of the day? Done!

Want to work all day in your pajamas? Done!

Want to take December off to hang out with family and pig-out on sugar cookies? Done!

Really. When you have your own business, you can systematize everything with processes and a team, scale up your income to whatever you want, and then do whatever you want.

#3 – FREEDOM

Like I’ve said before, I’m not anti-job, I’m pro-freedom. I get that people have jobs. I get that some people even like their jobs. There will always be those people.

But let’s be clear – a job is NOT freedom. Try and tell your boss that you’re going to take the summer off. Just see what they say.

When you have your own business, you work hard (probably harder than you would at your job) but you have your own freedom.

There is absolutely no better feeling than waking up and knowing the entire day yours.

#4 – HAPPINESS

You know what happens when you wake up and realize the day is all yours? You become the happiest person on the planet!

And you get to live it everyday. This is not fluff. I live it. My friends live it. Most of the coolest people on this planet live it.

Do you take your happiness seriously? If so, then why are you at a job?

We live in one of the most exciting times in history! There’s so much opportunity!

What I do myself wasn’t even an option just a short time ago. And because I do what I do for income, I can do whatever else I want to whenever I want to do it.

Currently, that means living on an island in the Mexican Caribbean. In two weeks, we leave for Europe for the summer. And I thought I was cool when I got to vacation for 8 days in Europe back when I had a job!

But that’s just me.

What do YOU want to do? What aren’t you able to do because you have a job?

What are you willing to do about it?

Like, today?

Are you starting to see why I preach this stuff? It’s about control and choice and freedom and happiness. I just don’t understand why anyone wouldn’t want to work hard for this.

All of the info is out there. You just have to apply yourself. Get rid of fear. Get rid of any doubts that you don’t deserve it or that “people just aren’t supposed to live that way”.

Make it happen. Get started today!

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Create Your Own Turning Point

When I was in high school, my best friend’s dad had a heart attack.

It was crazy because he was an active guy and still relatively young. For him, and his family, it was a huge turning point.

One time while riding his mountain bike, Hollywood director Tom Shadyac got into a wreck and went into a strange kind of coma.

Coming out of it, he changed up his priorities and his lifestyle. It was a huge turning point for him.

Me? I got laid off.

I walked through my house midday with a box of stuff from my office. When my wife saw me, she panicked for about 30 seconds before reaching a turning point.

It became our “Day of Decision”.

Little did we know that at that very moment that we were stepping off of the treadmill that so many others follow and declaring our new lives.

We didn’t even know what that new life was at that moment! We just jumped. And it felt good.

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Picky

Why Being Picky is a Good Thing

“Did you know my dad doesn’t like bacon? Isn’t that crazy?!”

My distaste for bacon is one of my daughter’s favorite talking points. She’s told every extended family member and every one of our friends. She’s even told random strangers. It fascinates her.

Yes, it’s true. I can’t stand bacon. It’s basically flavored fried fat. I just don’t see the point. I’d rather waste the calories on something else.

While I’m at it, here are two more foods that I can’t stand – avocado and its diarrhea cousin, guacamole. They’re both like green squishy swamp snot.

There, I said it! It’s out there for the world to know about how I feel about bacon, avocado, and guacamole.

I know at this point, most of you think I’m crazy. You might even say I’m picky. I’ve even been called prideful.

I just don’t see it that way. I prefer the term “refined”.

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What Every 30 Something Should be Deeply Concerned About, Family Rocketship

What Every 30-Something Should Be Deeply Concerned About

I took a sip of Gatorade and processed what my buddy Connor just said.

We were climbing Mt. Si outside of Seattle, Washington. 4000 vertical feet in 4 miles. It’s a good climb with a payoff of seeing the entire Puget Sound area from the summit.

A hike like that gives you time to chat about a lot of things. One of the topics was our own fitness while still in our 30’s.

Connor said something profound.

He said, “Basically, how you treat your body during your 30’s will determine how you go into the rest of your life. By working out now, you’re going to head into your midlife years nice and fit. What you do in your 30’s determines how you’ll enjoy the rest of your life.”

Connor is right.

But in more ways that one.

If You’re in Your 30’s…

This is my appeal to you, my 30-something comrades.

This is my call to arms to get you moving and create the life you want. Not just the life you think you have to have.

About a month ago, I turned 36. (gulp)

That’s it. I’m officially on the downside of my 30’s.

As always when I complete another year of life, it got me thinking. For those of us in our 30’s, we have a unique opportunity to really make it happen.

Here’s why.

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Death, Atheism, and Living the Dream

*Note – this post is a bit more philosophical than practical but hopefully there’s some value in there for you anyhow.

This week, I was saddened to hear of the loss of an old high school football buddy. He was a cool guy. He was the same age as me – 35.

Naturally, I spent some time remembering him and then thinking about my own life and situation.

It’s a sobering thought knowing that you could “go at any time”.

It’s also incredibly motivational.

The Gray Cubicle Prison

I used to sit in a cubicle. I did it for 40+ hours a week. I spent another 20+ hours a week commuting.

During my lunch breaks, I tried to avoid the typical lunch places. I couldn’t stand seeing all of the other worker bees with their khaki Dockers and work badges hanging neatly from their belts.

Instead, I went to parks and even stores. I used to walk aimlessly around Target looking at the “normal people” who somehow escaped having to be at a job.

I used to wonder what they did. How did they not have to get back to a boss? How did they make money?

What allowed them to wander freely without any buzzing in their head that they had to clock in again?

After my lunch break, I used to log back in to my computer only to see a screensaver of a tropical island staring at me.

With a little sigh, I’d start pouring through emails again waiting until after 5 when I was then allowed to go back to my family.

Bottom line, I spent the best waking hours of my life doing something I didn’t want to do with people that weren’t my family all while dreaming of something better.

I was dying. Slowly. Methodically. One time card after another.

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A Lifestyle Design Prerequisite: Choice

A Lifestyle Design Prerequisite: Choice

Lifestyle Design sure sounds cool doesn’t it? It gets all the glory of living where you want, doing the things you want to do, and hanging out with who you want to hang out with.

In short, it’s about living your dream life.

I can say, because I’m living it, that it’s real. But in order to get there, there are some serious concepts you have to consider.

The first and foremost of these is choice.

Everything in life is a result of the choices we make – where we live, what kind of job we have, who we surround ourselves with, even our level of health.

Almost everything that we’re currently experiencing is a result of our choices.

For Example

One of the most obvious choices I’ve seen is about where you live. I’ve lived in various parts of the country and I’ve heard people say, “I hate living here”.

Good-LifeMy reply has always been (and always will be), “So why don’t you move to somewhere you do like?”

What follows is a stream of lame excuses that are all rooted in fear. Yep, I said it. People are scared. In this example, I believe that most people are too chicken to move to somewhere they do want to live because they’re afraid.

“But what about my job?”

“What about my house?”

“What about school for my kids?”

Question – do they have jobs, houses, or schools in your dream location? If not, it’s probably not the right place for you. If they do, then why the heck are you staying in a place you “hate” when your dream location is waiting for you?!

Our Happiness is a Direct Result of Our Choices

This is actually a really big topic and we’ll come back to it. Today I mainly just wanted to point out that when you’re intentional about your life (lifestyle design) that choice is and should be your best friend.

Choice is a tool that allows you to decide exactly how you’re going to live your life.

It’s something we all have. We cannot control everything (weather is a great example right Seattle people?) but we can control the choices we make in how we’re going to react.

“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response. In our response lies our growth and our freedom.”     -Viktor Frankl

I’m mostly just feeling preachy right now because I feel that people undervalue the freedom of choice.

How do you want to make money? Where do you want to live? Who do you want to spend your time with? What do you want to do?

All good questions to consider. And, you can choose the perfect answers to all of them.

Lifestyle Design all starts with choice.

The question is, what will you choose?

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Do what it takes

Do What It Takes

Take a long, hard look at the below photo…

If you look carefully at this photo, you’ll see a man on his belly digging through a public fountain for quarters, dimes, and nickels.

I know because I took the picture.

Last week we found ourselves on the waterfront in downtown Seattle on a miraculous sunny day. We came to a fountain and the girls threw in a couple of pennies after making a wish.

Then I saw a man approaching the fountain with his eyes set on it the way a lion stalks a gazelle.

As he got near, I watched in fascination as he, without hesitation and total disregard for those around, dove his hand into the cold water and rummaged for shiny coins.

I noticed the other bystanders staring in disbelief but nobody said anything besides a few murmurs to each other. At first, I was borderline appalled.

But as I continued to watch the man, I was intrigued and then totally involved in what he was doing. And, as you can tell, I even had time to whip out my phone and snap a picture.

After a few minutes and a soaking wet arm, the man stood up and walked away with a fist full of coins, probably a few dollars worth. It was one of those situations that kind of makes you think, “Did that really just happen?”

As we talked about it, I realized that somewhere inside me, I felt a sense of admiration for the guy. OK, so I know going around stealing other people’s “wishes” probably isn’t the best thing to do.

Besides that however, think of what else he did and what we can learn from it.

Singularity of purpose

He walked straight up to the fountain and dove right in. I love his clear focus. He wasn’t there to chit chat with others. He was there to collect money.

How focused are we on our goals? Really! Do we achieve them?

No shame

There were a lot of people around. He didn’t care. He achieved his goal regardless of what others were thinking about him.

Are there things that you would love to do but perhaps fear what others might think? Do you hold yourself back because you think you have a family who won’t understand?

Execution

Fountain man (as I’m now fondly calling him) had a goal in mind and executed perfectly. He didn’t wait for the right time. He walked straight up and dove his hand right in. He didn’t even take the time to roll up his jacket sleeve.

How often do you hesitate with a goal you’ve set? Maybe you think it’s too big or too hard. Maybe you want to wait for the “right time” to get started.

Risk versus Reward

I’m not sure the laws in Seattle about taking money out of public fountains but I’m guessing it’s probably frowned upon by city officials.

Fountain man would probably have had a rough time explaining himself if a cop were nearby or a nosy citizen had piped up. There was a large group of people nearby but he proceeded anyway.

Don’t get me wrong. I’m not suggesting that it’s ok to steal. I’m simply saying that too many times we are more afraid of a perceived risk and don’t go for the reward.

Do what it takes

This is the biggest lesson. I don’t know fountain man’s entire story. It’s not my place to judge. But I do know for some reason he felt it was necessary to rummage through a very public fountain with the intent to leave with money.

What he was going to use the money for is again not my business. I do know however, that he did what it took to get what he wanted.

With the goals you’ve set, are you doing everything it takes to achieve them? Are you desperate to see more of the world but are still stuck at a job? Are you anxious to meet a special someone but are afraid to get out and meet people? Are you trying to find a way to make more money but coming up short?

When my wife and I decided to make a drastic change in our life, we went big. We sold pretty much everything we owned and became intentional vagabonds. That was what needed to do.

What about you? What steps do you need to take to do the thing? The bottom line is this, when you think about your goals and the things you want to achieve, do it what it takes to make them happen!

So to Fountain Man, wherever you may be now, I salute you. Thank you for the strange but potent inspiration to the rest of us.

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WHY RISK IS A GOOD THING

Why Risk is a Good Thing

In my family, we love to play a game called “Pass the Pig”.

The point of the game is to roll two little plastic pigs and have them land in certain positions that equal certain points.

When your points add up to 100, you win. The catch is that with every little toss of the pigs, you could “pig out” and you risk losing all your points.

You can stop and any time with the points you have and wait until your next turn to continue to add points.

I won’t mention names, but some people in my family think I’m crazy because on my turn, I never pass the pigs. I keep rolling until I pig out or I get 100 points.

Why do I do it? One, it’s just a game and I really have nothing to lose. Two, and this is the real reason, I love the thrill of the risk!

PASS THE PIGS FAMILY ROCKETSHIP
What is risk anyway?

Wikipedia defines risk as “the potential that a chosen action or activity (including the choice of inaction) will lead to a loss (an undesirable outcome). The notion implies that a choice having an influence on the outcome exists (or existed). Potential losses themselves may also be called risks. Almost any human endeavor carries some risk, but some are much more risky than others.”

Wow! Can we be any more gloomy? Risk is commonly thought of as negative. People only think of everything that could possibly go wrong. Can we try to be a little more “glass if half full” and see that risk is actually a two-sided coin?

If risk means the potential loss or undesirable outcome doesn’t it also mean the potential gain or desired outcome? The key word is potential. It could go either way. It’s a 50/50 shot right?

Expect the positive outcome

Recently I learned the power of expecting the positive outcome. I kept procrastinating sending over a proposal to a potential client. I waited for a lot of reasons but the main reason is that I thought he might think it was too much. Now I know that shows a lot about what I was thinking but the point is that I was expecting a negative outcome.

Why? Dumb right?

With the help of my awesome personal coach (something that everyone should have – more on that in another post), I chose to expect the positive outcome. I took the risk and waited for the good to happen. Guess what? It did! Happily ever after. But it wouldn’t have happened had I never taken the so-called “risk”.

More often than not, if you expect the positive outcome of a situation, it will happen that way. In fact, I don’t know why I even ever thought the opposite before. It doesn’t make any sense! Why expect the negative? What’s the point?!

I once heard that “worry is just the misuse of imagination”. If we flipped that, it would mean that positive expectation or faith is the proper use of imagination. This is part of the optimist’s creed. Always expect the best and it will usually happen.

Let’s rewrite the definition of risk shall we?

Let’s say that risk is the potential for a chosen action or activity to yield great results. It is especially important to expect the positive outcome to achieve the desired result.

Progress always involves risks. You can’t steal second base and keep your foot on first.

Frederick Wilcox

Will things always turn out right just because we hoped they would? Of course not. But we would never know unless we took the jump. Risk is really just a stepping stone to success.

In fact, here’s another new definition:

Risk is believing in yourself enough to drive you to take action toward a certain goal.

Risk is showing the world that you’re not afraid to do what you want to do.

So, is risk a good thing?

Heck yeah! Take the risk. If it doesn’t turn out the right way, the worst thing that will happen is that you learned what didn’t work. Unless it means you actually dying, nothing in this life is really too risky to not attempt.

Keep rolling those pigs man. Life is short. Risk it!

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Why Getting Laid-off Can Be the Best Thing to Ever Happen to You

Why Getting Laid-off Can Be the Best Thing to Ever Happen to You

“We’re going to have to let you go”.

The words bounced around in my head for a moment as I looked around the taupe colored office with horrible florescent lighting.

After the meaningless conversation that followed (I mean, they already had their minds made up right?), I left the office and arrived home midday to greet my wife and girls. I told Heidi what happened and we sat down and had a very involved conversation.

Have you ever been laid off from a job? These days it doesn’t seem too bizarre. In fact, it used to be a very serious thing and now it’s almost commonplace.

Photo courtesy of Social is Better

What happens when you lose your job? It’s a shock to the system right? It’s a big blow to your normal routine. It certainly makes your life a lot more interesting, that’s for sure.

It’s now my intention to convince you that getting laid off from a job could be the best thing to ever happen to you. To sum it up – it creates new opportunity for you.

First, it gets you out of the routine

When you have a job, you have a daily schedule you must follow right? Getting released from your job means all of the sudden you don’t have to get up and hurry off to join the rat race. Your time is yours.

Maybe there was something you’d rather be doing but your job and your happy little routine didn’t quite give you time to do it. Well, now you have that time. This leads to the next point.

Second, it gives you the chance to grow

So maybe you weren’t in your dream job. Most people aren’t. Why not go after it now? What about that awesome business idea you had? Why not use this time to start it? What about that Round-the-World plane ticket you’ve always wanted to buy? Maybe now is the time to do it.

Reinvent yourself. Anything is possible!

Third, it gives you a new lease on life

You have to have the right attitude. I believe everything happens for a reason. I can say with 100% confidence that you losing your job will only create a bigger opportunity for your life…should you so choose.

Don’t worry yourself with bills or rent or whatever. You’ll figure out a way to pay them. Just get creative. Maybe you don’t need the $200 cable bill. Maybe you don’t need the super deluxe gym membership that you don’t use anyway.

Use this time right now to start doing what it is you really want to do.

So, hopefully I’ve at least helped you start to see that losing a job is a good thing. Now let me give you some practical steps to take if/when your day of freedom comes.

Step 1: Drive Home and tell the Family

I know this one may seem obvious. Your loved ones are going to wonder what’s up when you show up in the middle of the day. But your family and loved ones are your first and best support group. If you’re married (or in a serious relationship) use this time to talk it over. If you have older kids that can understand the situation, this is the perfect time to have a family council. If you’re single and maybe family isn’t around, use your friends or roommates.

Step 2: Tell everyone you know you lost your employment

It doesn’t do you any good to keep your new-found unemployment a secret. Tell everyone. Like I already mentioned, these days losing your job really isn’t too uncommon and certainly nothing to be ashamed of. Call key people and email everyone else. This will get the ball rolling.

Step 3: Spend time in prayer

Losing a job is a humbling experience. Spend time in prayer or deep meditation thinking about what got you to where you are and where you’d like to go now. I know from personal experience that you can find answers if you just ask and listen. This introspection is very important and it leads to the next step.

Step 4: Set goals based on your priorities and values

Now that you’re free from your old job, set some goals. What do you really want to do with your life? What is your ideal income source? What is the one thing you’ve always wanted to do? Chances are what you really want to do will be in line with your priorities and personal values.

For example, maybe you love to travel. Deep values for you might include learning and freedom and mobility. Priorities for you include seeing new places and learning new cultures.

Be sure to set goals that are the most meaningful to you. Ideally, it’s a goal that gives you chills just to think about it.

Step 5: Start taking action

This is the most important part of the whole process. The most successful people in life are the ones who take action. And I mean meaningful action that’s in line with your the goals you’ve established. If you want to write a book, don’t just organize your desk. Start writing the book! It must be focused action.

It seems taking action cures almost everything – lack of money, lack of relationships, lack of (fill in the blank). You’ve been given an opportunity to do something even bigger and more meaningful than you were before. Now is time to really kick start your new life. Do whatever it takes to start today.

“The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack in will”.     Vince Lombardi

I’ll wrap this up by getting back to my own story of getting laid off. When I got home in the middle of the day, Heidi had a slight freak out. It lasted for a grand total of 30 seconds before her face changed and she burst out, “This is it! All this means is that a new, better opportunity is coming our way!”

And she was right. We have now carefully crafted our dream life and I’m very pleased to say we are living it. One of our primary goals is to help others also live their dream lives.

It’s possible. It’s real. Now it’s your turn.

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